Mr. Mike has some great words of wisdom for us today and I honestly wished I’d let go of a few things (or at least said No before I knew what I was getting myself into) over the past few weeks. It is NOT easy to let something go after you made a mental commitment to do it (the theory is called cognitive consistency).
I hope the following will be helpful in some way.
Mike, the floor is yours…
To: The Great Leaders Who Have a Passion for Continuous Learning
“Just let go!” – words of wisdom to great leaders who have a passion to “just do it!” A myriad of priorities compete daily for the attention of great leaders. There is always an instinct to do everything, to serve everyone, to be all things to all people, and they wear themselves out in the attempt. They give up time with their family and friends. They cut back on their daily workout. They crowd out their treasured down-times in which they pause to collect their thoughts. They spend long days, nights and weekends involved in their responsibilities. Always a phone call to answer, a Blackberry message to which to respond. In the end they lose some of their balance –mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. There is an answer that a friend and coach shared with me: “Let go!” Enjoy the wonderful learning.
To “let go” does not mean to stop caring, it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To “let go” is not to cut myself off, it’s the realization that I can’t control another.
To “let go” is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.
To “let go” is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To “let go” is not to try to change or blame another, it’s to make the most of myself.
To “let go” is not to care for, but to care about.
To “let go” is not to fix, but to be supportive.
To “let go” is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
To “let go” is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
To “let go” is not to be protective, it’s to permit another to face reality.
To “let go” is not to deny, but to accept.
To “let go” is not to nag, scold, or argue, but instead, to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To “let go” is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
To “let go” is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
To “let go” is to fear less and love more.
Reflect on these words that their wisdom may guide your journey, that you may refresh yourself and bring greater balance to your life. You are so very special… you are the best… find time for you. !
Have a beautiful day and a magnificent week!!!
Michael M. Reuter
Director, Center for Leadership Development
Stillman School of Business
Seton Hall University
Tel: (Office) 973.275.2528